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paradoxically中文意思翻譯

adv.自相矛盾地, 反常地, 似是而非的

paradoxically詞形變化

副詞: paradoxically | 名詞: paradoxicalness | 形容詞: paradoxical |

paradoxically常見(jiàn)例句

1 、Paradoxically, some of the conditions may relate to the narrowing and the limiting of the subjectivity.───但我們還是要謹慎，不宜過(guò)于信賴(lài)模糊的好感。

2 、If you paradox her, you'll destroy everyone.─── 如果你把她給悖論化 會(huì )害死所有的人

3 、The answer to the question is full of paradox.───對這個(gè)問(wèn)題的回答矛盾百出。

4 、Credit Paradox has long made concentration risk a potential burden on commercial banks.───信貸悖論一直以來(lái)使商業(yè)銀行不得不承受信貸資產(chǎn)集中的風(fēng)險。

5 、Man is really something of a paradox.───人是一個(gè)非常復雜的矛盾體。

6 、Grasping this paradox, Oprah exhorts viewers to improve their lives and the world.───奧普拉利用了這個(gè)似是而非的理論，告誡觀(guān)眾改善他們的生活與這個(gè)世界。

7 、The paradox of earth is that it cradles life and then entombs life.───大地的奧妙在于它既生長(cháng)萬(wàn)物, 亦埋葬萬(wàn)物。

8 、"More haste,less speed"is a paradox.───“欲速則不達”是一種似非而是的論調。

9 、The paradox between the historicism study way and the way question on hypostases is the fundamental cause.───歷史主義的研究方法和本質(zhì)主義的抽象追問(wèn)之間的邏輯悖論是此一難題產(chǎn)生的根本原因。

10 、On the market of monopsony-oligopoly structure, "Bertrand Paradox" may lead the price to the costs, too.───在壟斷-寡頭競爭的市場(chǎng)結構下，“伯川德悖論”可能使裝備價(jià)格低至成本水平，甚至其下；

11 、The science of happiness offers two explanations for the paradox.───快樂(lè )學(xué)為這一矛盾提供了兩個(gè)解釋。

12 、The disturbing paradox of social change is that improvement brings the need for more improvement in constantly accelerating demands.───似非而是的社會(huì )變更中，令人不安的因素是：改進(jìn)帶來(lái)的是對更多的改進(jìn)的需要，這種需要不斷地呈加速趨勢。

13 、In Boise, families like the Capps and Muirsillustrate the paradox.───在博伊西市，像凱普和墨爾這樣的家庭正反映了節儉的悖論效果。

14 、The seeming paradox of children working everywhere in groups but rarely as groups.───意思大概是這樣的。為小孩們成立小組授課,但是卻無(wú)法發(fā)揮小組授課的效益這種矛盾。

15 、But this is where the paradox appears.───但這正是矛盾之所在。

16 、J.Simpson and Crackhead Jesus Reveal Paradox of U.S.───當前位置：首頁(yè) > 財經(jīng)資訊 > 美股 > 美國股市 > O.

17 、The gorilla is something of a paradox in the African scene. One thinks one knows him very well.───在美國的某些地方人們對猩猩的了解總是自相矛盾的,他們總覺(jué)得對它了解得很透徹。

18 、For life is a paradox, it enjoins us to cling to its many gifts even while it ordains their eventual relinquishment.───因為人生就是一對矛盾：它既讓我們抓住人生的多種賜予，同時(shí)它又要我們到頭來(lái)把這些賜予放棄。

19 、The gorilla is something of a paradox in the African scene.───在非洲大舞臺上大猩猩有點(diǎn)象似是而非的雋語(yǔ)。

20 、Heinlein story featuring twins paradox.───主題： Re: YASID: Robert A.

21 、Paradoxically, it has been far easier to map small variations.───不可思議的是，繪制較小的變異要容易得多。

22 、You can't paradox them if they're already dead.─── 如果他們已經(jīng)死了 你沒(méi)法讓悖論產(chǎn)生

23 、When you win a battle and your partner submits, you have, paradoxically, lost.───當你贏(yíng)得了一場(chǎng)口角，你的配偶暫時(shí)屈服了，而實(shí)際上，與此相反，你已經(jīng)輸了。

24 、The paradox inherent in this situation is easy to state.───在這種情形中固有的自相矛盾之處顯而易見(jiàn)。

25 、When you win a battle and your spouse submits, you have, paradoxically, lost.───當你贏(yíng)得一場(chǎng)爭執，你的配偶屈服了，事實(shí)上，相反地，你是大輸特輸。

26 、Paradoxically, the financial bust, by adding so much debt, may boost the chances of a breakthrough.───可能有反常理的是，增加了這么多借貸之后，這次金融泡沫破滅有可能增加突破問(wèn)題的概率。

27 、A contradiction between principles or conclusions that seem equally necessary and reasonable; a paradox.───二律背反看上去同樣必要及合理的原理或結論之間的矛盾；充滿(mǎn)矛盾的人或事

28 、Yet, paradoxically, the man who fell into debt could enslave his wife to a creditor for up to three years.───但自相矛盾的是，如果丈夫欠了債務(wù)，可以將妻子賣(mài)給債主為奴，時(shí)間可以多達三年。

29 、Logrolling can provide a solution to the so-called Paradox of voting.───“互投贊成票”可以給所謂的“投票悖論”提供一個(gè)解答。

30 、Yet, paradoxically, he helped develop a gyrocompass for U-boats.───但諷刺的是，他同時(shí)還幫助德國潛艇開(kāi)發(fā)了一種陀螺儀。

31 、Paradoxically, the less she ate, the fatter she got.───很矛盾的是，她吃得越少，就變得越胖。

32 、He was mixed both by the dignity of a great master and the passion of genius paradoxically.───一代宗師的莊嚴面貌與多情才子的深情熱誠矛盾地統一在他身上。

33 、Starless is my night, silent is my ride.through the paradox of wisdom, to the sea of souls.───夜空暗無(wú)星光，路程靜如肅殺。穿越智慧的矛盾，直向靈棲的海洋。

34 、Declaring that he would rather lose an election than a war is paradoxically one of the Republican candidate's most valuable electoral assets.───他公開(kāi)宣稱(chēng)寧愿在選舉中失敗，也不愿意戰敗。有點(diǎn)諷刺的是這居然成了這位共和黨候選人選戰最大的籌碼。

35 、A curious paradox will reveal itself during 2010 in France.───2010年的法國將有一個(gè)奇特的矛盾現象。

36 、Seemingly paradoxically, some companies that manufacture breath fresheners are against the ADA effort.───吊詭的是，一些口腔芳香劑的制造廠(chǎng)商違反ADA的要求標準。

37 、The ambivalence of topophilia and topophobia has been the recurrent paradox in human history.───對土地、自然的依附眷戀以及逃避是一對在人居環(huán)境史中反復出演的矛盾戲劇。

38 、Paradoxically, the only time the court can deliver the subpoena is when all relevant evidences are prepared.───2頗具矛盾的是，僅當全部相關(guān)證據準備妥當時(shí)，法庭才能將傳票遞出。

39 、The marvelous paradox was that the ideas themselves were not obscure.───令人驚異的似非而是的說(shuō)法是主意他們自己不是微暗的。

40 、The post-modernism revolt against The Promise has its paradox too.───對《無(wú)極》的后現代反叛同樣存在悖論。

41 、Paradoxically, the success has also been frustrating.───可是很矛盾地，這項成功卻也令人沮喪。

42 、Cocoa and lipid profile: a fat paradox?───可可和脂質(zhì)介紹：脂肪悖論？

43 、Paradoxically, although their long-term prospects look wobbly, the messenger subculture has never been stronger.───很矛盾的，雖然他們的遠景不容樂(lè )觀(guān)，他們的亞文化也從未變得更強。

44 、It is a paradox that such a rich country should have so many poor people living in it.───如此富足的國家竟有如此多的窮人，這是個(gè)矛盾的現實(shí)。

45 、Adapting visual Delphi language and Paradox database, structure ceramic database management system is developed.───應用可現視化的Delphi語(yǔ)言和Paradox數據庫,開(kāi)發(fā)了結構陶瓷數據庫管理系統。

46 、You're both the same person, that's a paradox.─── 你們是同一個(gè)人 這是悖論

47 、This brings us to a seeming paradox.───對我們來(lái)說(shuō),這似乎是矛盾。

48 、Realizing my own mortality and the evanescence of life paradoxically makes me more appreciative of life.───在我理解到我個(gè)人的生命也會(huì )有結束的一天時(shí)，生命就這樣像謎一樣地消失更讓我對生命有無(wú)限的感激與尊敬。

49 、The paradox is the more we grow, the more poverty we create.─── 這樣就出現了一個(gè)悖論 越發(fā)展 帶來(lái)越多貧困

50 、For life is a paradox: it enjoins us to cling to its many gifts even while it ordains their eventual relinquishment.───因為生活本身就是一個(gè)矛盾：它一邊告誡我們要珍惜它所付予的一切，一邊又注定在最后將其全部收回。

51 、OK here's an interesting situation. You can play the hard stuff but not the easy stuff? That's quite a paradox.───好的,這是一個(gè)很有趣的現象,你可以彈難的卻彈不了容易的?這確實(shí)讓人覺(jué)得奇怪。

52 、"More haste, less speed" is a paradox.───"欲速則不達"是似非而是的雋語(yǔ)。

53 、I'm merely remarking upon the paradox of asking a masked man who he is.───我不過(guò)是指出一個(gè)矛盾,需要問(wèn)一個(gè)戴面具的人是誰(shuí)嗎?

54 、Elucidation of that paradox is not ours to know.─── 這矛盾的解讀非吾等所能掌握

55 、He could not bear this continual paradox in which he and the other officers lived.───他們這些當官的天天都在無(wú)法自圓其說(shuō)的處境中過(guò)日子,他實(shí)在受不了。

56 、they've created a paradox in my programming.─── 這在我的程序中制造了駁論

57 、Another problem is that by trying to think our way out of sadness, we paradoxically fuel it.───另一個(gè)問(wèn)題是，當我們想要通過(guò)思考來(lái)擺脫悲傷,反而會(huì )助長(cháng)它?！?/p>

58 、The Solution of the Paradox: Is that Possible and How?───悖論的解決:是否可能與何以可能?

59 、No, the the chest is moving paradoxically.─── 不對 他的胸廓在做反常運動(dòng)

60 、Paradox and irony are characteristics of her style.───她善於運用似非而是的雋語(yǔ)和反語(yǔ)。

61 、Trading demands discipline, but, paradoxically, attracts impulsive people.───交易需要紀律，但矛盾的是，它吸引的是沖動(dòng)型的人。

62 、A trade is a bet on a price change, but there is a paradox.───交易是關(guān)于價(jià)格變化的賭注，但這里有一個(gè)悖論。

63 、Philosophic thought, the exhilarating experience of paradox and discovery, is the first step toward a civilized faith.───哲學(xué)思考，這一矛盾和發(fā)現所帶來(lái)的令人振奮的經(jīng)歷是邁向文明信念的第一步。

64 、The problem with paradoxes, in about 30 seconds I'll be a girl who remembers a show that never existed, which makes me a living, breathing paradox.─── 悖論的問(wèn)題 30秒后我會(huì )成為一個(gè) 記得不存在的節目的女孩 這讓我成為一個(gè)活生生的悖論

65 、Your answer to the question is a paradox.───你對這個(gè)問(wèn)題的回答矛 盾百出.

66 、Paradoxically, the US is both the birthplace of global environmentalism and the world's biggest environmental spender.───但很矛盾的是，美國既是全球環(huán)保主義的誕生地，可又是世界最大的能源消費國。

67 、Berlin confronted a theoretical paradox between Monism and Pluralism.───伯林提出了自由主義一元與多元化的價(jià)值悖論。

68 、"I always lie" is a paradox because if it is true it must be false.───“我永遠在撒謊”是一個(gè)悖論，因為如果這是真的，那這必然又是假的。

69 、The realization of impermanence is paradoxically the only thing we can hold on to, perhaps our only lasting possession.───了悟無(wú)常是我們唯一所能堅持,甚至是唯一永遠的財產(chǎn)。

70 、For life is a paradox: it enjons us to cling to its many gifts even while it ordains their eventual relinquishment.───因為生活本身就是一個(gè)矛盾：它一邊告誡我們要珍惜它所賦予的一切，一邊又注定在最后將其全部收回。

71 、Paradoxically, the very decline in the economic role of agriculture has tended to solidify its political power.───似乎有悖常理的是，農業(yè)的經(jīng)濟地位的下降越發(fā)增強了農業(yè)的政治勢力。

72 、A notion in economics known as the paradox of value is closely tied to consumers'surplus.───在經(jīng)濟學(xué)中，價(jià)值的反論這一概念是與消費者盈余密切有關(guān)的。

73 、The C-value paradox: no correlation between apparent structural complexity and genome size.───值矛盾：結構上的復雜度與基因組大小沒(méi)有明顯的關(guān)系。

74 、Well, we can't do that because we'd paradox.─── 不行 我們已經(jīng)在悖論里了

75 、Paradoxically, Athens was on the threshold of her "age of despotism".───但與這種民主精神相悖的是，此時(shí)的雅典在向“專(zhuān)制統治時(shí)代”邁進(jìn)。

76 、The darkest thinkers may paradoxically be the most cheering.───也許看似矛盾，但最悲觀(guān)的思想家卻很可能是最能鼓勵人的。

77 、Paradox plowed into paradox, stillness mixed with stillness, sound with sound.───萬(wàn)寂交而萬(wàn)籟和，若真若假，若是若非。

78 、Ehrlich too was fascinated by the rubbery chameleon-on-the-mirror paradox.───埃爾利希也執迷于這咬嚼不爛的“鏡子上的變色龍”的孰是孰非。

79 、The explanation for this paradox may be that people become less satisfied over time with a given level of income.───對于這種自相矛盾的現象也許可作如下解釋?zhuān)S著(zhù)時(shí)間的推移，人們對一定的收入會(huì )越來(lái)越不滿(mǎn)。

80 、From the start, Mr Aso's strategy was to capitalise on this paradox.───從一開(kāi)始，麻生的戰術(shù)就是利用這一矛盾。

81 、For blogs pose the paradox of the internet in its starkest terms.───因為博客網(wǎng)站造成了互聯(lián)網(wǎng)上最徹底的自相矛盾現象。

82 、The paradox of objectification and differentiation is the historical mystery.───對象化與異化的二律背反是歷史之謎。

83 、In so far as it thinks it solves the paradox, it reinstates it intact.───只要飛躍自認解決了這個(gè)悖論，它便恢復了無(wú)缺的原貌。

84 、The progress paradox: How life gets better while people feel worse.───發(fā)展的悖論:生活更好,感覺(jué)更糟。書(shū)評作者就是原書(shū)作者本人。

85 、For life is paradox: it enjoins us to cling to its many gifts even while it ordains their eventual relinquishment.───因為人生就是一對矛盾，它促使我們牢牢抓住人生的很多賜予，但同時(shí)又注定了我們對這些給予最終的放棄。

86 、LORD GORING. Everybody one meets is a paradox nowadays. It is a great bore. It makes society so obvious.───戈林子爵：如今，每個(gè)人都是矛盾體，這讓人厭煩，這世界也因此變得平淡無(wú)奇。

87 、Greek logician,possibly author ofthe liar paradox.───希臘邏輯學(xué)家,一說(shuō)是檄譴者悖論的作者.

88 、Believe me, you don't want to be around for a paradox.─── 相信我 你不會(huì )想讓悖論發(fā)生的

89 、It"s a paradox, Isolation exists only in isolation.Once shared, it evaporates.───孤獨只存在于孤獨中，一旦與人分享，它就消失得無(wú)影無(wú)蹤了。

90 、From the perspective of pragmatics, the problem is not a paradox unsolvable.───從語(yǔ)用學(xué)的角度看,直譯和意譯的矛盾是可以解決的;

成長(cháng)之 Emotional Detachment

昨天聽(tīng)一位職場(chǎng)成功女性分享了她的成長(cháng)體會(huì )，她提到一條她的閨蜜給她的最有幫助的建議：be emotionally detached from your work。就這一句，一聽(tīng)到我就覺(jué)得醍醐灌頂，困擾我多年的癥結被它不偏不倚擊中要害。原來(lái)，從小長(cháng)輩倒給我的她們在工作環(huán)境里攢下的苦水、步入職場(chǎng)后自己心里經(jīng)歷的一次次暴風(fēng)驟雨，其實(shí)都只是被我們不明智地反芻、沉溺、放大了，而對待它們最健康最負責的態(tài)度則是：盡快把自己從波動(dòng)的情感中抽離。這個(gè)智慧的選擇，不僅是對自己身心的呵護，而且也是對手中的工作、身邊同伴的負責任的照顧。它會(huì )幫助我們有效地防止情緒上的內耗，保持對大方向的專(zhuān)注。

頓悟的那一刻，除了感謝臺上的講述者，我也感嘆生命奇妙，同樣的話(huà)估計我也沒(méi)少聽(tīng)過(guò)，但為什么是在那樣的場(chǎng)合那個(gè)時(shí)間點(diǎn)，它一瞬間就解除了我長(cháng)久以來(lái)的情緒魔咒？所謂“非歲月不可”，誠然。我也終于踏實(shí)地相信，我在越來(lái)越從容堅定地做好自己的主人——成長(cháng)，在每一次情緒的取舍和聚焦前，清晰可見(jiàn)。

順手搜了以下這篇方法 文章 ，貼在這里，需要的時(shí)候當作自救的行動(dòng)清單。

另外，我還讀到了一項 2014年的心理研究 ，研究結果有點(diǎn)出乎意料。大意是，雖然帶著(zhù)積極情緒進(jìn)入工作的人會(huì )比帶著(zhù)負面情緒工作的人表現得稍好，但是，不帶情緒的人在工作上的表現竟遠遠地高過(guò)前兩者。所以咯，要想在工作上精進(jìn)，學(xué)會(huì )在必要的時(shí)候將感情抽離的重要性不言而喻。

Three Methods: Coping with Feelings Focusing on Yourself Using Techniques to Detach Community Q&A

三種方法：應對感覺(jué)、關(guān)注自身、使用情緒抽離的技巧

Sometimes it is healthy to detach from emotional pain if it is too intense or overwhelming in that moment, if it could be dangerous (could lead to harming yourself, or using a dangerous drug), if the timing is not right (if you are at work or school or in an unsafe place), or if you do not feel comfortable expressing emotion in your current situation (i.e. if you are around certain individuals that you do not trust to share your feelings with). In order to healthily detach from strong emotions, you may benefit from learning to cope with difficult emotions, paying attention to yourself and your own needs, and practicing techniques for successful emotional detachment. 

有時(shí)，如果你覺(jué)得情緒會(huì )對你自己造成身體上的傷害，或者時(shí)間地點(diǎn)不適合應對，那么把自己從情緒中抽離出來(lái)是一個(gè)健康的辦法。下面就有幾種能幫助你健康地抽離的方法：1.學(xué)習和有挑戰的情緒共處，2.關(guān)注你自身以及3，練習情緒抽離的技巧。

Method1   Coping with Feelings  方法1   應對你的感覺(jué)

1  Explore the reasons for your strong emotional reactions.  In order to better detach yourself, you should be aware of the reason for your strong reaction. Three reasons why you may be feeling emotional are:

you are being highly sensitive

the situation is triggering a painful past event

you are feeling a loss of control over the situation, which can provoke a lot of anger and frustration.

1. 尋找引起你強烈情緒反應的原因。 為了讓你自己抽離，你應該對引起你強烈情緒反應的原因有所察覺(jué)。以下是三種可能的原因：

你高度敏感 / 事件觸發(fā)了痛苦的記憶 / 你覺(jué)得對形勢失去了控制，而這會(huì )引發(fā)很大的憤怒和不滿(mǎn)

2  Know the difference between healthy and unhealthy detachment.    知道健康和不健康的（情緒）抽離的區別。

It is natural and normal to want to emotionally detach sometimes, especially if the emotion is too painful or overwhelming to fully deal with at the current time. However, extreme emotional detachment from others is associated with psychopathy, where individuals commit crimes against others without remorse. [1]  Extreme emotional disassociation can also be the result of experiencing trauma.

If you want to detach sometimes due to intense emotions, that is perfectly healthy. We may not always be in the place to cope with strong emotions. However, if you find yourself isolating from others constantly or being emotionally numb (not feeling emotions), you could suffer from a larger psychological concern.

Some signs you may need therapy or treatment include: social isolation, avoidance of social activities, intense fear of rejection, recurrent depressed or anxious mood, difficulty completing work (school or occupational duties), and frequent social conflict or physical fights with others.

注意：如果你發(fā)現自己有如下的表現，那可能就需要去尋求專(zhuān)業(yè)治療：與世隔離、逃避社交、強烈地害怕被拒絕、反復的抑郁或焦慮情緒、完成工作困難、經(jīng)常性的社交沖突或者與他人的身體沖突。

3  Accept your emotional state.   接受你的情緒現狀

Paradoxically, if we accept our emotions as valid and normal, we can be better at detaching from them when we need a break. [2] [3] Oftentimes, we may want to push our emotions away because they do not feel good. However, these emotions give us valuable information about our situation and our perceptions. [4]  Similar to physical pain, negative feelings (fear, anger, sadness, anxiety, stress) are like your brains way of alerting you that there is a problem.

看似自相矛盾但又確實(shí)不虛的是，當我們把我們的情緒看作情有可原的正常狀況，我們反倒能在需要透口氣的時(shí)候更容易地從情緒中抽離。經(jīng)常，我們可能想要避開(kāi)感覺(jué)不好的情緒。然而，這些情緒為我們提供了審視我們所在的境況和看待事情的角度的有價(jià)值的信息。類(lèi)似于身體疼痛，負面感覺(jué)（害怕、憤怒、悲傷、焦慮、壓力）也是你的大腦再給你拉警報，提醒你有問(wèn)題出現了。

The next time you have a painful emotion such as anger, think to yourself, “I am angry because _____. This anger gives me good information about how I am reacting to this situation and will help me decide how I should deal with it. It is okay to feel angry.” The anger itself is not the issue, it is what you do with the anger you feel. You can choose to ignore it and stuff it down, but this could end up making it come back even more powerful the next time.

下次，如果你有了痛苦的情緒，比如：憤怒，暗自想想：“我在生氣，因為_(kāi)____。這股憤怒讓我看清了我是如何應對這個(gè)情況的，它也會(huì )幫我決定應該如何處理它。生氣就生氣吧?！睉嵟旧聿皇侵攸c(diǎn)，重點(diǎn)在于你怎么回應你感覺(jué)到的憤怒。你可以選擇無(wú)視它，把它填壓住，但這有可能會(huì )讓它最終反彈得更厲害。

If you accept your emotion, and find a healthy way of coping with it, then it loses its power over you and you can healthily detach from it when you need to.

如果你接受你的情緒，找到一種健康的方式去處理它，那它對你的影響就減弱了，在你需要的時(shí)候，就可以安全地從中抽離。

In the moment, try shifting focus [5] , as well as deep breathing to activate the body's calming response. The first is a cognitive process associated with decreased anxiety, and the second is a physical action one can take to initiate the body's calming response.

在情緒上來(lái)的時(shí)刻，試著(zhù)轉移注意力，同時(shí)深呼吸來(lái)激活身體的鎮靜反應。前者是一個(gè)伴隨著(zhù)焦慮減弱的認知過(guò)程，后者是一個(gè)能讓人平靜下來(lái)的身體動(dòng)作。

You can also cope by taking a nap, doing an art project, taking a walk, getting a massage, hanging out with a pet, drinking tea, listening to music, and even kissing your significant other [6] .

你也可以小睡一下、做一些與藝術(shù)相關(guān)的事情、散散步、按個(gè)摩、溜下寵物、喝杯茶、聽(tīng)聽(tīng)音樂(lè )甚至親親你的伴侶。

4  Express your feelings in a safe place.   在安全的環(huán)境中表達你的情緒感覺(jué)

Giving yourself the space to feel your emotions in a safe way is integral to being able to detach when you need to. Set a time each day to feel your feelings.

Practice crying alone. Crying in front of the one who is harassing you will only provoke them to taunt you more or continue with their harassment. Breathing deeply and thinking of something other than the situation may prevent you from fully processing the situation and ultimately prevent you from crying. However, it is not healthy to keep that sadness in. Try your best to wait until the situation has ended and for the antagonist to leave the room before you begin to cry. 

在人前，尤其是在欺負你的人和相關(guān)場(chǎng)合下，深呼吸、轉移注意力，盡量忍住別哭。但是找到安全的環(huán)境，獨自一人的時(shí)候要哭出來(lái)，別憋壞了。

5  Write down your feelings and thoughts [7] .   寫(xiě)下你的感覺(jué)和想法

Just as it is unhealthy to keep from crying, it is also unhealthy to keep anger, confusion, and other negative emotions inside. Putting those feelings and thoughts on paper or on the computer can help you process and deal with difficult emotions so that you can detach when you feel the need. 和哭的作用類(lèi)似，把感受和想法寫(xiě)在紙上或電腦里會(huì )幫你慢慢

Write down how you feel in a secret journal or diary. 把你的真實(shí)感受寫(xiě)進(jìn)秘密日記。

To avoid ruminating on your negative thoughts, try identifying alternative ways of thinking about or looking at the situation. For example, if your negative thought is, "This person is such a jerk!" Perhaps you can also write down, "However, this individual may have had a difficult life and is being this way to cope with anger or sadness." A little empathy can go a long way in helping you cope with difficult people and situations.

 為了避免自己沉溺在消極想法里，試試轉換一些角度和方法來(lái)看事情，比如，罵完一個(gè)人后，轉念一想，這個(gè)人可能他自己也過(guò)得不好。一點(diǎn)點(diǎn)的同情心可能會(huì )在與難搞的人和事打交道的時(shí)候幫上大忙。

6  Distract yourself.   轉移注意力

Think about or do something else [8] . Do not simply ignore the feeling or situation. If you try to stop thinking about something, you may just end up thinking about it more. This is called the white-bear phenomenon, where subjects in a research study were told not to think about a white bear; and of course that is all they could think about. [9]  Instead of focusing on avoiding thinking about what is making you upset, try to think about something else instead. 有個(gè)白熊理論說(shuō)的是，你越是讓人不想某個(gè)東西某件事，他就越是想得多。所以與其不斷告訴自己別想這事兒了，還不如直接換件事情想。

Try distraction activities like: gardening, playing a game, watching a movie, reading a magazine, playing an instrument, painting, drawing, cooking, or talking to a friend. [10]  具體的，比如：園藝啊，玩個(gè)游戲啊，看個(gè)**啊，讀本雜志啊，玩玩樂(lè )器啊，涂涂畫(huà)畫(huà)啊，下個(gè)廚房啊，或者跟朋友聊聊。

7  Take action physically.   讓身體動(dòng)起來(lái)

Go for a walk, a bike ride or any other cardiovascular activity. Aerobic activity is proven to boost endorphins and will help you be in a better position to monitor and change your reactions to emotional predators. [11]  Exercise can also be a great distracting or grounding technique.

Consider the following physical activities: hiking, rowing, kayaking, gardening, cleaning, jumping rope, dancing, kickboxing, yoga, Pilates, Zumba, push-ups, sit-ups, sports, running, and walking. 考慮做下這些活動(dòng)：遠足、劃船、皮劃艇、園藝、打掃衛生、跳繩、跳舞、拳擊、瑜伽、普拉提、尊巴舞、俯臥撐、仰臥起坐、運動(dòng)、跑步和散步。

Method2   Focusing on Yourself    方法2  聚焦在你自己身上

1  Self-reflect.   反觀(guān)自己

One way to healthfully detach is to focus on observing yourself like an outsider, from an objective stance. [12]  This is sometimes called the “third eye,” where you have an additional vision of yourself from the outside.

When you are alone, simply observe how you are feeling and thinking. Ask yourself, “How am I doing today? What am I thinking about?”

獨自一人時(shí)，觀(guān)察自己的感覺(jué)和想法就夠了。問(wèn)問(wèn)自己：“我今天感覺(jué)怎么樣??？我現在在想什么？”（很有效的問(wèn)題，一定要強調當下的感覺(jué)是怎樣的，不是昨天，不是懊惱的事情發(fā)生時(shí)候的情感記憶，就僅僅是提問(wèn)的這一刻。）

You can also work on observing yourself in social situations. Pay attention to what you say, do, how you act, and what emotions you express.

你也可以練習在社交場(chǎng)景中觀(guān)察自己。留意你的言談舉止以及其背后你要表達的情緒。

2  Validate yourself.   看見(jiàn)并允許自己的感覺(jué)

Self-validation is an important component of learning how to distance yourself emotionally. Validation means confirming that how you are thinking or feeling is reasonable.

告訴自己，你的所思所覺(jué)都是情有可原的。

You can use positive self-talk. Say to yourself, “It is okay and natural to feel how I am feeling. Even if I don’t want to show it, I am allowed to feel this way.” 比如，跟自己說(shuō)：“我有現在的情緒很自然，沒(méi)什么大不了。即使我不打算發(fā)泄出來(lái)，我也允許自己在心里這樣想想?！?/p>

3  Set emotional boundaries.   （對外界）設立情緒邊界

Setting emotional boundaries is about putting your needs first by setting limits on what you will tolerate from others. If you can, disengage from individuals who irritate or upset you, such as particular coworkers or neighbors.

Try setting boundaries by telling individuals directly how you feel, and what you would like them to do. For example, if your brother teases you, you could say, “I feel angry when you tease me like that. I would appreciate it if you stop.” It may also be helpful to identify the consequences of breaking this boundary such as, “If you don’t stop, I might not want to continue to be around you.” Here, you calmly discuss your anger without blowing up.

Method3   Using Techniques to Detach 方法3  運用情緒抽離的技巧

1  Use your wise mind.   利用你的“智慧腦”（情緒和理智的最佳平衡部分）

According to Dialectical Behavioral Therapy (DBT), a prominent therapy modality that helps teach individuals distress tolerance, we have an emotional mind and a rational mind. Our wise mind is a mix of both emotions and rational thought. The key to detaching or distancing yourself from emotional pain for a period of time is to use your wise mind – the perfect balance between the logical part and emotional part of your brain. Instead of only reacting emotionally, attempt to think rationally about the situation. [13]

Acknowledge your feelings by saying, "Emotions are natural. Even strong emotions pass. I can work out why I had such a strong reaction after I get myself calm."

Ask yourself, "Is this going to matter in 1 year, 5 years, 10 years? How much does this actually affect my life?"

問(wèn)問(wèn)你自己：“1年、5年或10年后，這件事還重要嗎？它會(huì )在多大程度上影響我的生活？”

Ask yourself if your thought is fact or fiction. What is the bigger picture? [14]

自問(wèn)你的想法是事實(shí)還是杜撰。往大處看是怎樣的情形？

2  Maintain emotional distance through   mindfulness .  通過(guò)練習“正念”保持情緒上的距離

Creating emotional distance is useful if you need to be empathic toward someone, but do not want to be overwhelmed or overly affected by the person's emotions. [15]  Mindfulness can be a useful technique in achieving a level of empathy that includes a level of distance that reduces the possibility of being flooded by the other person's emotions.

Try eating a piece of food mindfully (raisin, candy, apple, etc). [16]  First focus on what it looks like, its color and shape. Then notice how it feels in your hands, its texture and temperature. Finally, eat a small piece of the food slowly and notice how it tastes, and feels when you are eating it. Pay close attention to this experience.

Go on a mindfulness walk. Try walking for 20 minutes or so. Simply focus on your walking, and what is going on around you. How does the air feel? Is it hot, cold, windy, calm? What sounds do you hear? Are there birds chirping, people talking, or car alarms going off? How does it feel to move your body? What do you see? Are there trees swaying in the wind, or animals moving about? [17]

Bring your focus back to the present moment instead of being caught up in your thoughts and feelings or other personal reactions. Mindfulness requires concentration on the present moment, awareness of your own reactions, acceptance and letting go of painful thoughts and emotions, and thinking of thoughts as ideas instead of truths. [18]

3  Take deep breaths [19] .   深呼吸

If you are stressed out, your body naturally tenses and sends your thoughts racing. Breathe deep and slow to avoid a lack of oxygen that can add to the problem. [20]

Place yourself in a comfortable position and practice breathing deeply in through your nose and out through your mouth. Focus deeply on your breathing and how it feels throughout your body to inhale and exhale. Make sure you are breathing from your diaphragm; this means that you should feel your stomach move fully in and out as you breathe. It should feel like you are filling up a balloon and releasing it every time you breathe. Do this for at least 5 minutes.

4  Use grounding exercises.   做一些比如：數數、數房間里的東西、列舉你喜歡的顏色等的弱智邏輯練習

Grounding is perfect for emotional detachment because it involves techniques specifically for distancing yourself from emotional pain. [21]

Try the following grounding techniques: count to 100 in your head, count imaginary sheep, count the number of things in the room, think of the names of all the United States, or name all of the colors you can think of. Try anything logical and unemotional that will take your mind off the situation.

5  Keep up the habit.   堅持這個(gè)習慣

Eventually, your mind will learn to store things away and you'll go into thinking of logical and unemotional things naturally. The more you practice, the better you will be at detaching from painful emotions.

最終，你的大腦會(huì )學(xué)會(huì )把情緒負擔放一邊，自然地進(jìn)入對純邏輯不帶感情的事情的工作中。你練習得越多，就越容易從痛苦的情緒中抽離。

<福爾摩斯和波斯克姆的神秘事件>簡(jiǎn)介英語(yǔ)版

The Boscombe Valley Mystery

Sherlock Holmes and Dr. Watson are called down to Boscombe Valley to investigate the death of Mr. Charles McCarthy. Lestrade, a detective from Scotland Yard whose meagre abilities are often upstaged by Holmes's brilliant deductions, has concluded without much ado that it is a murder, and that McCarthy's son James is the killer. James was seen by one witness following his father to the nearby pond, and another, a young girl, saw the two remonstrating with each other by the pond.

The strongly intuitive mind of Holmes refuses to accept the easy conclusion derived from too obvious and blatant clues. The nature of the crime seems to him to be quite complicated than what is apparent; as he declares paradoxically that it is “one of those simple cases which are so extremely difficult”. A host of mysteries boggle the minds of the readers, such as the motive for Mr. McCarthy’s visit to the pond, his being followed by his son with a gun under his arm, the son’s report of the strange “cooee” call in the woods, the altercation between the father and son and the son’s refusal to reveal the reason and nature of the dispute, the disappearance of a grey coat which vanish mysteriously as the son squats near his dying father, Mr. McCarthy’s dying reference to “a rat”. As the narrative progresses the neighbour, Mr. Turner’s daughter is also involved into the perplexing entangle of the unfortunate murder. She happens to be the second person besides Holmes himself who believes in the innocence if young McCarthy.

Holmes’ thorough rummage around the crime scene near the pond reveal interesting set of footprints from which Holmes deduce that the perpetrator of the heinous murder is a tall and lame man smoking Indian cigar. The description narrows down closely to the culprit but dramatically before Holmes’ hands lay upon him, he visits Holmes to make a confession. The story ends on a rather dramatic note making the young McCarthy walk free and the culprit meeting his natural death after a couple of months of the admission of his misdeed. A moral standpoint is given to the culprit saving him from turning into a reckless criminal before the readers.